You're late...and a liar.

I've made quick phone calls as I ran out to the car: "Just leaving, I'll be there ASAP!"
I've rushed into a conference room with a table full of people: "Sorry to keep you waiting."
I've texted friends on my way to meet them for lunch: "Go ahead and order, almost there."

Despite the calls, texts, and apologies, here is what you're really saying when you're late:


1. Trustworthy vs Liar
If you tell someone you'll meet them at 10am, then you are essentially making them a promise.  Be on time so you can be a man/woman of your word.  It's a character issue.

2. Reliable vs Flaky
Being on time shows you're reliable.  If you don't show up when you're supposed to, then people will begin to doubt whether they can count on you.  It's a dependability issue.

3. Disciplined vs Slack
Discipline can be exercised in your financial life, physical life, professional life, and even in setting/reaching goals.  Yet, being late shows a lack of discipline with your time.  It's a self-discipline issue.

4. Humility vs Arrogance
When you're late, you communicate to the person waiting that you are more important than them.  Whatever you were doing was more important than what they had to do.  Their plans and schedule take a back-seat to your plans and schedule.  It's a respect issue.

When you realize what is communicated when you aren't punctual, it will change the way you look at your clock.

For me, "on-time" means at least 5-minutes early.  I want to make sure I honor you and the time that you've given me to meet.

So what do you think?  Is punctuality no big deal, or an important part of life?

-4 Ways to Help a Hurting Friend-

When tragedy strikes, one of the most frequently asked questions that I get from people is, "What can I do?" or  "How can I help?"  Here are 4 quick things you can do to really serve those around you that are hurting.


1. SHOW UP
The best thing you can do for people that are hurting is to just be there.  Your presence can help heal.  Text, call, and email, but don't stop there.  Show up.

Be there WITH them and FOR them.


2. SHUT UP
During a hard time in life, your friends will have tons of questions.  Resist the desire to "answer" all of the questions or try to "fix" the problem.

Chances are, they aren't asking you for an answer.  They just want to share.  They want you to listen.  Sometimes the best thing is to sit there with them and say absolutely nothing.

So show up and shut up.


3. SHARE THE PAIN
Cry with them, laugh with them, pray with them, be broken with them, and cry some more with them.    Don't alienate yourself from their situation.  Get in the trenches with them.

Sharing the pain brings great comfort by helping your friends know they aren't doing this alone.


4. TAKE THE INITIATIVE
The worst thing you can do for a hurting friend is to say, "Call me if you need anything."  You've just placed all of the responsibility on their shoulders.  They don't need that.

Take the initiative and do something.  Cook them a meal, mow their grass, bring them bags of groceries, wash their dishes, clean their house, babysit their kids, treat them to a dinner out.

Don't wait around for them to ask you, and don't wait around for someone else to come up with a plan.  Just spring into action.


I've been the recipient of all of these things in my life during times of pain and struggle, and I hope they help you too.

-Grip Those Love Handles-

This Sunday we're starting a new series at REVO called "Love Handles: Get a Grip on Love and Relationships."  Here are a few phrases we're going to unpack the first 2 weeks of the series:

-Guys, what does it mean to be the king of your castle?

-Ladies, does Scripture REALLY tell you to submit to men?

-Are there specific "roles" for men and women?

-Should women pursue men, or is that the guys job?

-Ladies, ever wonder why you attract the wrong type of guy and get stuck dating a loser?

-Guys, wrong wife = hard life!  Right wife = good life!

Fellas, this Sunday I'm going to share some things from Scripture that all great kings do for their kingdoms.  This is going to help you understand what you need to be doing to attract and keep your dream wife.

Ladies, I'm going to share some things from Scripture that you should be looking for in a man.  This is going to save you A LOT of heartache from guys that aren't worth your time!

If you're single or dating, let's get a grip on what Scripture says you should be looking for in a relationship.  If you're married, let's get a grip on what your king/kingdom should look like.

You don't want to miss the kickoff of this series!  Try any of the 3 service times at either REVO location, and get a grip on these love handles.